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nebris~Sad dreams full of loss and abandonment this last sleep cycle. Had to wake a few times to look around my room to consciously remind myself that I'm safe and okay. I also cried when I finally woke up completely.
About a week back a friend asked about breakups and getting over them. I brought up the 50% Rule, that it takes half the length of the relationship to recover from its loss. That got me thinking about Family Systems. I wondered if that rule applied in their case.
I spent just under fifty years inside my Primary Family System [Mumsie and El Padrasto hooked up when I was two and half] and I've been gone from that insanity for just over a decade now. If the 50% Rule applies, that means I've got about another fourteen years to go before I'm 'over it'. *sigh*
Well, my old man is going to be eighty four in a week and his father lived till ninety, so I suppose I could have a decade or two free and clear of that shit. Mix in some Transhumanist goodies and then who knows...
About a week back a friend asked about breakups and getting over them. I brought up the 50% Rule, that it takes half the length of the relationship to recover from its loss. That got me thinking about Family Systems. I wondered if that rule applied in their case.
I spent just under fifty years inside my Primary Family System [Mumsie and El Padrasto hooked up when I was two and half] and I've been gone from that insanity for just over a decade now. If the 50% Rule applies, that means I've got about another fourteen years to go before I'm 'over it'. *sigh*
Well, my old man is going to be eighty four in a week and his father lived till ninety, so I suppose I could have a decade or two free and clear of that shit. Mix in some Transhumanist goodies and then who knows...
