The Divine Mr. M

...this really more a starting point than a full blown conclusion..the issues of the Nature of the Immortal Human Spirit and of Reincarnation are not addressed for instance..and I would not even touch this issue if is was not for The Temple..we will without doubt have to address these states of being as we go along...

~The first incontrovertible fact of human existence is our birth. It is our unchangeable starting point. The place we were born. The family we were born into. The body we were born with. Those are facts and denying them distorts the rest of the journey.

We have great power as autonomous beings to grow into and/or away from the facts of our birth. But, unless we fully accept and acknowledge where and how we start, we will suffer. Of course, if we feel 'different', such as feeling Male with a Female body or vice-versa, we are faced with a grim struggle with The Social Order to be what it says we supposed to be. The Social Order is, above all, about order.

I have heard the Trans-Gender usage of the phrase “assigned such and such gender at birth”. I'll be harsh about that; such is sophistic nonsense. If you are born with a female biological form, that is what your form is. The 'assignment' is a medical fact. If one regards ones original bio-form as being Assigned by The Social Order instead of simply a Starting Point, then you are taking such as a Punishment and one from which you will never ever escape because you have internalized it.

By using such 'ideological cant', the Trans-Gendered person re-victimizes themselves every time they use such language. It traps them in the past and 'distorts the journey'. The biological form you were born with is simply the platform upon which you must build and that is no different for anyone, gender identity and/or sexual preference not withstanding. If you accept that paradigm, then you are merely another Human seeking who they are. Such seems an 'easier' path.

The Trans-Gendered person does have a steeper trip than most to be sure. The paradigm of the present Social Order is tough enough on the Fixed Gender* person in terms of what and how “One Is Supposed To Be”. And often the Trans-Gendered person is trying to 'become their opposite gender ideal' as opposed to maybe becoming something entirely new. [*I despise the term Cis-Gendered. It reeks of the gender hatred the Trans-Gendered seek to escape.]

A Female-to-Male friend just said to me; “You frequently objectify trans women loudly and actually quite off-puttingly in your journal in a way that I can't avoid seeing. I'm down with porn and I'm down with you liking a certain sort of thing and that's fine, but it just upsets me in a way I find hard to vocalise. You referred to one woman recently as "it".”

The phrase "I'd hit it" is a colloquialism that I at least use 'tongue in cheek' for anyone I find sexually attractive, Male, Female or anywhere else along the Gender Spectrum. Human Males 'objectify'. It is how our brains are wired, the visual stimulation of our sex drive predominates. The Male Gaze is baseline biology and our sexual drive is predicated upon 'spreading out seed', so we are always 'looking', aka 'hunting'. And those factual biological statements open a whole Pandora's Box of issues which I'll only partially address here.

They then said; “I find myself wondering what your opinion of trans men is, and then I realise that I don't want to know. I know your eventual world view encompasses female-assigned-at-birth men like me, but I don't think you think we're really men, do you?”

Given the 'trans' technology available at this point, generally speaking, no, I do not. The Male and Female brain function is profoundly different and we have not yet developed a way to shift that structure. And such judgments can only be made on a case by case basis and are wholly subjective.

And here we come to the part that will likely upset nearly everyone involved; the 'direction' of the Gender Transformation. I firmly believe that Male to Female is an 'easier' Trans Path than Female to Male. [Easier being a very relative term]

We are all conceived as Females. Males at some point in their mother's womb are 'transformed' into Males. So a MtF Trans Person is in effect returning to their original pre-birth state. The Female to Male Trans Person is moving toward a Gender State in which they have never before existed. [not in this life anyway, but we're not going Metaphysical right now]

Now please keep in mind that these are vastly general observations and that every human is massively complex, so the variations are equally vast and complex. I am absolutely NOT saying you must remain the gender you were born. If you don't feel like that gender, then change it. But be honest that, if you're Female to Male, you're not really likely to become the 'opposite gender'. You're going to become something new.

Goddess Knows that is a scary proposition. It's hard enough to be an ordinary human who fits into an accepted category. To make the above change is to move into the realm of the truly alien. The drag queen or the diesel dyke is more 'socially normative' than the Third or Fourth or Fifth or Sixth Gendered person.

The coming advances in bio-tech will likely create whole new categories of 'humans', some so strange to us Baseline Humans that today's Trans-Gendered folks will seem positively mundane. In fact, the ability to switch back and forth from Male to Female and back again could very possibly be a straight forward proposition one day.

In the meantime, those who struggle to transform their Gender Identity suffer and all too often die in that process. As a Baseline Male, I cannot really understand on a visceral level what you are going through, though please believe that I am very sympathetic and supportive because the truth of the matter is that we Baseline Humans are the past and you are, at the very least, the pathfinders of our collective future.

If any of that sounds at all condescending, then I ask for your understanding and acceptance. I was raised an upper middle class Anglo-American White Male during a certain period of history and such has clearly shaped who I am.